Extinction of Woman: Part 3 (Today)

Casey G.
Sep 1
4 min read

In my last journal post, I listed all the major events that have curated today’s modern Christian woman. I would like to again insert a clarification. Many of those events, we would all agree as Christians are not good. But some of those events, many Christians would say were good. The problem with our own measuring sticks is that they are ours. Not God’s. I hope you were able to see where many things that we were taught were good for us as women have actually uncovered us from God’s protection, and contributed to the mass chaos and confusion we now see in the world, consequentially spilling into the church.

We have been targeted, fooled, and ravaged. Just look around.

Are we, the Church, okay?

We have generations of women encouraged to not become mothers. Not as a means to find the right husband or become a nun. But through contraception and abortion. Through college and careers. And if such a radical woman decides to be a vessel for life and become a mother. From the beginning, we are easily frustrated. Exhausted. Distracted. Discontent. Irritable. Angry. Bitter. As though we weren’t designed to be mothers at all. As though He had not perfectly equipped us for this womanly role.

(I was her. I am her. Remember, it is a work to submit daily.)

So, how did we get here? This distorted version of God’s design?

We let down our guard. We fell asleep. Christian parents are failing. We are no better than secular parents today. If anything, we should be ashamed as we have disrespected God with our disobedience. Like the unbelievers, we have also offered up our children to Baal. We let him have them through television and iPad's and phones and social media and video games and music and junk food. We let them disrespect authority. We give into every want and desire. We encourage self-happiness and money and careers and power and prestige over humility and salvation and service. We even accept our children’s sins and call it love. Submission and discipline are barely taught. Biblical truths are embarrassing and outdated. So we let the Sunday School teachers give out portions of watered-down scripture to our children to suffice our conscience each week. And we wonder why they are not okay…

Look around. We have got to ask ourselves, Christian women, are we really better off? Did we help create this culture?

I look around and see captured women. I see mean-spirited Christian women. Unloving, lacking real compassion. I see judgement and gossip everywhere. Including my own mouth. I see discontentment and bitterness. I see such a lack of joy in us. Why in the world would anyone want to be a Christian like us?

You're not alone if you’ve asked yourself, like I have, how in the world did we get here? Something ain’t right. We’re headed for the iceberg. Hurry! Change course!

But the answer isn’t more “self”. It isn’t more independence. More happiness. More time alone. More money. More platforms. More elevation. Or accolades. It’s not more knowledge and education. More beauty. More attention. Louder. Seen. It’s not more outward. But going inward is where hope can be found. The heart. The home. Service. Christ. This is where we, as women, change the world. This is where we change course for generations. This is where we break chains. And create legacies.

This won’t be easy. To humble ourselves. To go against the world. To swim upstream. Barrel forward while getting pulled by the herd towards the cliff. Our strength will surely come from the Lord alone. This world will be brutal to those that live out scripture. They will misunderstand. Twist and taint. It will be lonely. To take up your cross means fewer friends. And even fewer fans of your walk. It will look radical and extreme in a dull world.

But we must go inward, Christian sister, to the place that rumbles inside us, and in the stillness ask God, “In all my womanliness, what did you design me for? Why did you choose me to be a woman and not a man? Where am I out of alignment with your design? What do I need to do to be in harmony with my purpose as a woman? Speak to my heart, humble me, transform me, Oh Lord.”

What hard thing is God calling you to do as a woman?

~Casey G.

"I believe there is an order, established in the creation of the world, and I believe that much of the confusion that characterizes our society is the result of the violation of God's design." Elisabeth Elliot

“...there were both ‘wifely’ and ‘motherly’ essences laid down by God and nature, regardless of what other roles women might take on as mere human beings." ~C.S. Lewis

Highly Recommended Resources...

Books:

"Let Me Be A Woman" Elisabeth Elliot

"Feminine Threads" Diana Lynn Severance

"Joyful Surrender: 7 Disciplines for the Believer's Life" Elisabeth Elliot

"Disciplines of a Godly Woman" Barbara Hughes

"Keep a Quiet Heart" Elisabeth Elliot

"Love & Respect" Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

"A Sword Between The Sexes" C.S. Lewis

"Mere Christianity" C.S. Lewis

Podcasts:

"Them Before Us" with Katy Faust